It strikes me that the majority of bookbloggers these days are female, with males being in a minority. It’s a decently-sized minority, or at least that’s been my experience with the blogs I read. Maybe it’s different when the focus is on other genres. Still, I think overall the majority of bookbloggers are of the female variety.
I am one of them. A female bookblogger. But I find it very hard to put myself in the same category as most of them, because there are just so many difference between how I do things and how a lot of them do things. It creates a bit of a divide in which I feel like I should be able to relate and yet can’t.
I may be female. I may blog about books. But there are many things I don’t do that I see a surprising amount of other female bookbloggers doing.
– I don’t base my enjoyment of a book on how hot the male lead was, or how intense the romance/sex was.
– I don’t think about which literary males I would like to date, nor do I discuss how attractive they are.
– I don’t particularly enjoy romance as a primary focus in what I’m reading. I believe that romance should be a side-dish, not the main course.
– I’m not prone to doing character interviews or memes. The biggest meme I participate in is Im My Mailbox, but there are a ton of others that, if I participated in, could yield more hits for my blog. But they mostly feel like filler or irrelevent information that I don’t want cluttering up my blog.
– I don’t give a fig about book trailers.
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think that just because I don’t do these things that thus others shouldn’t do them either. And some of them (such as the book trailers thing) don’t seem particularly gender-oriented in principle but nearly always seem to appear on blogs run by females. Damned if I know why.
But it’s these things, and others, that make me feel like I don’t have a real connection to most of the female bookblogging community. I have no idea if people could mistake me for male if my name didn’t appear at the bottom of posts. One of those weird gender-guesser things declares my writing to be alternately weakly female or weakly male (sometimes both in one analysis), so maybe it could be so.
I could probably get more hits to this blog if I joined up with BlogHer, for example, which is a fairly good collections of blogs that are run by girls and women, often with an emphasis on thigns related to women. And while I technically have the creds, I’d feel wrong taking advantage of that resource when I don’t fit the mold. It feels like cheating, somehow, like I’m doing something unfair. Having boobs doesn’t necessarily make me feminine, so it feels wrong to join a listing that would admit me not based on my content, not based on how well I express myself, but because I have boobs, just like them.
I am a female bookblogger. But that doesn’t mean that I act particularly feminine when it comes to books or what I think of them.